I’ve heard the stories about the kid of a friend of a friend, and I’ve seen the news stories about sick babies, and I’ve even come across tragic stories of people who I don’t know on my Facebook news feed. Nothing, though, could have prepared me for the scariest moment of my life when I watched my 2 1/2 year old son experience a seizure.
That helpless little face will forever be imprinted into my mind no matter how much I try to shake it out. I can’t describe the amount of time that passed or the faces of the EMT’s and paramedics that showed up or even how my husband was reacting because my vision was completely tunneled to my precious little boy and the terrifying idea that I
wouldn’t couldn’t let myself accept: What if he doesn’t pull through.
I was recently in a Facebook group created by ladies in the town in which we were living called Crunchy Mamas. I was excited to join this group to ask questions, get suggestions, and have local support from ladies near me that had the same ideas and values as I did. I quickly found, however, that many of the mothers involved in the site, especially the ones running it, had strong opinions about raising children…and if you didn’t agree with these opinions, you were either criticized, talked down to, or kicked out of the group. The very young mother who had started the group clearly has much pride for it and likes to keep close control over everything posted. When a mother asked a question about something that may have caused friction, this girl was quick to remind every one that she had the power to remove anyone from the group if she wasn’t happy with their response.
Apart from the politics of the site, what was most disappointing to me was the fact that the group of mothers that I had been so eager to join for support were in fact the most unsupportive and disrespectful group of parents I could have imagined. I know that certain parenting methods can be somewhat controversial, but I had never actually experienced people’s brutal opinions until this Facebook group.
In my mind, how other parents choose to raise their children is of no concern to me. My husband and I, before we were even pregnant with our first child, discussed the important values and beliefs that we felt were vital in the bringing up of our children. We wanted to make sure that we were each on the same page and had each other’s back for the important aspects of creating a decent human. Unfortunately, conversations like these don’t always take place. I truly believe that is why there has been such a rise in divorces after children and single parents.
One of the most dangerous, chemical-ridden products on the market is most likely sitting in your laundry room right now and you’ve probably never given it a second thought.
The chemicals that make these products work remain on the clothes even several times after they are washed. They’re absorbed through the skin and lungs and certain traces of these chemicals have been found in urine, blood, and even breastmilk! The worst part of all is that the manufacturers aren’t required by law to put their full list of ingredients on the product! So when you read “Fragrance” on the box, you have no idea how many chemicals that “Fragrance” contains or how extremely detrimental to your health it is!
Research of these chemicals have linked them to:
- asthma and other respiratory conditions
- reproductive and fertility problems
- developmental issues
- skin irritation
- kidney, liver, and nervous system damage
- massive hormones disruptions
If you think this is going to be a how-to on potty training, you are greatly mistaken. In fact, it’s just the opposite. My son turned 2 this past August. As soon as I noticed how quickly he caught on to things (like Baby Sign Language), I knew that he was going to be so easy to potty train! Before we had even begun, I looked up tips and tricks for best practices and asked advice from other parents I knew, still confident that it would take a week (tops) to get this kid out of his dipes.
Well, I guess it’s time to admit, I was a bit naive…and perhaps a little too big-headed. Read more
Honestly, I don’t even remember how my husband and I came to the agreement that we were going to start baby sign language with our son. It was important to both of us to instill a passion of curiosity and learning into him as early as we could. I think one day when I was pregnant I may have said something like, “I think we should do baby sign language.” My husband jumped on board right away!
It turns out there are a lot of benefits to teaching babies sign language:
A Genius Baby
The early exposure helps develop baby’s reasoning and communication skills. From personal experience, it really did encourage a desire to learn within our son because to him it’s a game. We walk around the house finding the different colors and naming objects with words and sign. Not to mention when we are outside of the house and somebody sees him signing, they immediately comment on how smart he is…HELLO parental ego boost!
A Chill Baby
Because babies that know sign language can communicate needs and wants at a younger age, that means fewer meltdowns and tantrums. What parent doesn’t want that?! It also aids in speech development. So while other toddlers are at the park are running around screaming in frustration because mommy and daddy can’t figure out what they are saying, my son walks over to me while simultaneously saying and signing that we are outside playing in the grass. WIN!
A Happy Baby
Baby sign language is a total confidence and self-esteem booster! My husband and I always get so excited when our son catches onto a new sign, whether we’ve been working on it for months, or he grasps it within a day! And it’s so adorable to see how excited he gets when he figures it out, too! I can see the little baby pride radiating from him whenever we tell him how smart he is.
So…how do you get started?
So, I have to start by saying this: my son is the smartest kid in the world. He has been the smartest kid in the world since he was born. Does every mom feel like that? If so, they are wrong…because MY son is definitely the smartest kid in the world!
Okay, if I haven’t lost you already, let’s get serious. I do, however, have a pretty smart two year old. He is a polite, good listener with a kind heart who loves to show off!
Here are a couple things that my husband and I did that attributed to our son’s genius.
No Baby Talk
My husband is a high school English teacher and one of the funniest people I have ever known in my life. He’s got that quick dry sarcastic sense of humor coupled with a calm, monotone voice. If you’re not listening carefully, you’re gonna miss it and probably be (lovingly) insulted by him, too. I was anxious to see how he was going to respond to our son when he was born. I couldn’t imagine him going all “goo-goo gaa-gaa” on me, but then again, people always surprise me. Sure enough, he didn’t get babied up. In fact, he spoke to our son like…an adult. I have to admit, my motherly instincts kicked in as soon as I saw our son and I immediately had to put his perfect little toes in my mouth while still “boo-boo-boo”ing him. Not my husband, though. He talked to him like a human being which got me to thinking…
Surely, there is nothing developmentally stimulating about the “bubby gubby doos” that I think every woman wants to say while pinching a pair of chunky little baby cheeks. Speaking to our boy in direct, full sentences enabled him to bypass the “gabba gabba” cute stage and go right into trying to communicate.
My husband started reading to our son while he was still in the womb. I remember feeling him kicking like crazy when he would hear his daddy’s voice. After he was born, I would read my books out loud to him when he was itty bitty. Nothing that he could understand of course, but the sound of my voice would put him to sleep. We started reading children’s books to him probably after about three months. We knew that he couldn’t understand a word that we were saying, but my husband and I have such a passion for literature, that we wanted to be sure to do everything in our power to pass that along to him. Read more
The amount of different cloth diaper brands and styles is baffling, and the number of opinions about the best cloth diaper is even more overwhelming!
I am going to go over a few different styles and brands of cloth diapers, hopefully making your choice a little easier! Because there isn’t a store that sells cloth diapers anywhere in my area, I did all of my research online before purchasing. What I chose to use, I immediately fell in love with, but keep in mind that my favorites may not be best for you and your family. It’s all about preference! No one diaper is better than another, it’s really just about what works for you!
These are what your grandma used. And these are what people think of when they first hear “cloth diapering”. Prefolds are just that, prefolded pieces of fabric that need to be held together with either safety pins, covers, or a type of elastic fastener that you can purchase. The waterproof covers for these can be found for only a couple bucks, making this the cheapest way to diaper.
Although these may be the most affordable and the easiest type of diaper to clean, I didn’t go with prefolds because they seemed too complicated. Because I was used to disposables, I wanted something similiar to that. I thought it may be hard to teach a babysitter to use them, too. I have prefolds that I love to use as burp cloths! That may be saying something about how absorbant they are!
This kind of diaper is much more similar to disposables. They fasten with either snaps, velcro, or loops and are fitted to baby’s bottom. They are not waterproof so they still require some kind of shell. These diapers are a little more expensive than prefolds, but cheaper than most other styles. Another plus is that there are all kinds of cute designs and colors. Read more
I started researching cloth diapers when I was pregnant with my son over two years ago. Knowing that I was going to contribute to the overflow of landfills with thousands of disposable diapers just didn’t sit well with me. Unfortunately, two moves in my third trimester (the last one being 10 days before my son was born) had me a little preoccupied. And as soon as my son was here, I was so overwhelmed with him and all of his perfection that I didn’t really think about it again other than the occasional “I wish we would have done cloth”…as if it were too late.
Almost a year ago, when I found out I was pregnant with my second child, I knew that I HAD to make it work! I began researching and found all kinds of websites, blogs, and forums on the benefits of cloth diapering, how to get started, and everything I could ever want to know about using cloth. I was blown away at how many people had the same frame of mind as me! My husband (being just as environmentally conscious as me) was on board right away. Other people, though, didn’t seem as excited about the idea as I did. My response was simply, “why wouldn’t we use cloth?”
Here are a few key points to why I love cloth diapering so much:
- When you decide to make the leap to cloth, you should be prepared to invest a good amount of money into it. The high end, name brand cloth diapers can reach up to nearly $25 per dipe. Personally, I think that is CRAZY! I found hundreds of different YouTube channels and websites that reviewed every kind of cloth diaper brand and style out there and, based on what I researched, decided what was easiest and most cost-effective for my family. Trying to be as savvy as I could, I decided on three different brands of diaper that I got for as low as $4.50 per dipe that could be used from newborn all the way until potty trained. And, as a general rule, I never paid more than $6 per dipe (for more info on which brands I chose, check out my blog Choosing the Right Cloth Diaper). There are several different online trading companies that buy, sell, and trade used diapers as well (clothdiapertrader.com and diaperswappers.com) so you could potentially get diapers for even less. I would count on at least a couple hundred bucks to get started, though, depending on how many you want (I recommend at LEAST 20 as new babes go as many as ten times a day).
- Disposable diapers are, on average, about $.20 per dipe (we used Pamper Swaddlers for my son which are closer to $.25/dipe). You’ll use about 10 diapers a day on your baby for the first three months before that number goes down to maybe six a day for the next two and a half years! That’s math I can’t even do! In all my research, I found that on average, every child uses about $2,000 worth of disposable diapers which creates over 6,000 diapers added to landfills..that’s PER CHILD! That alone should be enough to convince you, but don’t worry…I have more!